Laurie
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On Saturday mom, Nel and I are attending a handling/dealing with grief during the holidays. It's being held at the funeral home where Lisa's memorial was. These people were absolutely wonderful to us so I am looking forward to attending. My struggle is with simply not wanting to celebrate a holiday without Lisa. I don't care about Thanksgiving or Christmas or most definitely my birthday. I can't imagine any of these times of celebration without her. Mom is wondering what to do with the money she would normally spend on Lisa and I think this is just insane! Lisa would say, don't spend it mom! She's wondering should she buy something for the less fortunate--should she send it to the Breast Cancer research--what should she do?
Lisa's sons are jerks--flat and simple. They did not love their mother or care enough to be with her at the end of her life--I don't care to be around them or have anything to do with them, and yes I know that's not what Lisa would have wanted, but too bad. So I don't want them to be a part of our holiday--they couldn't even give her an hour out of their days--an hour out of their week when she was dying so why should I want to be around them?
I just don't know how to go into this thing on Saturday. I feel childish because I don't want to celebrate with out her, yet I know I still have a family to love and be with--and I do love them. It's just that when I'm with my family now--each time, I am constantly reminded one of us is gone and will always be gone. Lisa's death changed our family dynamic, never again will we be Laurie, Lisa and Lynelle--it's strange and foreign and uncomfortable.
Does this seem like normal behavior after losing my beloved sister? Does it seem selfish on my part--and if so is it all right to be selfish?
Any thoughts are welcome.
Lisa's sons are jerks--flat and simple. They did not love their mother or care enough to be with her at the end of her life--I don't care to be around them or have anything to do with them, and yes I know that's not what Lisa would have wanted, but too bad. So I don't want them to be a part of our holiday--they couldn't even give her an hour out of their days--an hour out of their week when she was dying so why should I want to be around them?
I just don't know how to go into this thing on Saturday. I feel childish because I don't want to celebrate with out her, yet I know I still have a family to love and be with--and I do love them. It's just that when I'm with my family now--each time, I am constantly reminded one of us is gone and will always be gone. Lisa's death changed our family dynamic, never again will we be Laurie, Lisa and Lynelle--it's strange and foreign and uncomfortable.
Does this seem like normal behavior after losing my beloved sister? Does it seem selfish on my part--and if so is it all right to be selfish?
Any thoughts are welcome.