WTF is wrong with kids these days!?

[DaddyslilDimwit]

So yesterday I took my daughter and 2 dogs down to the river (maybe a 10 min walk from my house)
We live in a trailer park, just moved here in April, so I know the neighbors, but I'm not going out of my way to be friends with them.
On our way down to the river a little 9yr boy that I've seen a bunch of times asks is he can go with, and I agreed.
I spot a baby box turtle, only the size of a Kicky bag, with a clubbed foot so I pick him up and hold him while the kids/dogs played.

After 30 mins or so the boy cut his foot on a piece of glass so I told him to go home and clean it up. He tells me his Grandfather would beat him for getting blood/mud in the house, so I bring him back to my place and let him sit in the yard while I clean the wound. He tells me how much he likes my pond and the new turtle, then he leaves. I go to my parent's house for dinner and when I get home... All my fish and turtle are gone. Apparently that little Brat opened my gate and had about 10 kids come in and steal all my animals.

I got to spend the next SIX HOURS barging into houses/backyards. Yelling and kids and parents. I finally got all my fish back, but apparently the turtle 'escaped'

WTF!? And no parent would say anything to their kid.. It's like, hello, they had to Open my gate, get a bucket and keep going back to take my animals, why is no one getting BEAT for this? The kids ranged in age from 4 to 12.

In my day I would have been yelled, beat and grounded. These kids were back outside playing/laughing and have a good old time like nothing ever happened.


Sorry about that, I was just REALLY upset, at the Kids AND the parents.

 

[Riven]

I have a one word reply for what's wrong with kids these days.

Parents.

We have a very low creek a block from our house, and my girls like to play there with some other kids building forts. One day my daughter comes home and tells me that the other kids are trying to fight with her littler sister and are throwing nails and firecrackers at them and threatening them as well as trying to start their "fort" on fire... I go down there, of course not a kid in site because they knew I was on my way, and I find knives, gas, snacks, and other stuff down there. The kid who was causing the trouble was a teachers kid, and I tried to get a hold of her 3 times without success, the neighbor who's son was involved had talked with her, but later that night and since the teachers kids have been out playing like nothing happened....

I'm not saying that teachers are supposed to be perfect, but this is a lady who's supposed to be teaching my kids right from wrong while they're at school, but apparently allows her kid to do whatever he wants as long as there is a scapegoat ( he blamed everything on a different boy who was not even there that day, which is apparently a good enough reason for her why her little angel wouldn't do this..._)

 

[greychins]

I have a one word reply for what's wrong with kids these days.

Parents.
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Totally agreed.

 

[smhluvsmh]

Parents are the reason I no longer teach. They just don't care!

 

[Jenn]

I agree about kids today in general. It is sad that a lot of kids are allowed to do whatever they want to do without learning the difference between right and wrong. Parents have gotten lazy and unruly children are the result. This is one reason I decided long ago that I wanted to be a stay at home with my boys. I had heard stories about my husband's childhood and the trouble he would get into because no one watched him during the day. I grew up in a household where my parents watched my every move and I couldn't get into trouble if I wanted to. So I stay home and I communicate every day with my boys, they get punished for doing something wrong....I am a PARENT to them.

I'm so glad you were able to get all of your fish back and am sorry your turtle remains missing. I can't believe these kids and their parents have so little respect for anyone else...

 

[kerri101]

ugh as a mom of two teen girls Its been a struggle to raise kids these days when a lot of their friends go around doing anything they want without respect and there are not a lot of family values these days around ...Parents need to teach there kids responsibility I know these days a lot of both parents work but I know you can still be working and have parents who keep a close relationship and monitor there kids these days..plain truth some parents just dont care about how their kids are raised and act as long as they dont do things like get there house dirty or bother them ...but hey if there kids steal pets and terrorize the neighbors its ok as long as they are being left alone ughhhh Im so sorry you had to find some of the pets after they were taking like that very scary and Im so sorry turtle is missing hope you find turtle soon!

 

[DaddyslilDimwit]

Yes, I truly blame it on the parents. I swear theses kids run around here like packs of wild dogs, I've been talking to my neighbors and the park manager, and apparently the little boy that started it is also responsible for the following:
-Peeing in a Gatorade bottle and trying to make a little girl drink it,
-Dry humping a little girl in broad daylight RIGHT in front of his home,
-Stealing other people's frogs/turtles from their porches,
-Trying to set a shed on fire,
-And we have a crazy cat lady who had a huge hole in her front door- He climbed INTO her house!!!
-Hitting little girls

Ok, REALLY!? He lives with his Grandfather because his parents are too drunk/drugged to even WANT him, the Grandfather is crazy and does not want him either.
So Yea, I feel kind of bad for him, but still... That is one heck of a rap sheet for a 9yr old. And I'm sure that there is a lot that is not known.

 

[smhufflepuff]

Sounds like this kid needs more help... perhaps social services could/should intervene.

 

[DaddyslilDimwit]

The Grandfather is supposedly going to jail next month and DYFIS is taking the child. The Park Manager said that Child Protective Services have been there in the past, but nothing was really done because the child had a place to sleep and food in the home. They are pretty useless in Jersey.

 

[Megan]

I wonder how much the goverment plays into it that a parent cannot even "punish" their child these days. A simple slap on the behind/wrist can be considered child abuse if the wrong person sees and reports it, or the child goes to school and says "mommy hit me".

IMO I grew up just fine, as did my sisters when we were wrong and had our behinds slapped. It took one time when I was very bad with a wooden spoon--and I learned my lesson really quick. I grew up to respect (not fear) my parents, learn responsiblity and know that there were punishments for my actions.

Yes some people do take things so far...but how many parents are afraid to "parent" because they may be turned into the school/police for it?

Send a child to its room without dinner... you are "starving" the child.
Put the child in a corner on a naughty chair and its "torture" because they are staring at a wall...

 

[DaddyslilDimwit]

Yea, I agree but in this situation, it is not being afraid to be a stern parent, it is just not giving a D*** what the kid does.

 

[ReneeM]

I never thought spanking was okay until I started daycare. Half of the things I see kids to today my parents would have hit me for. And my parents NEVER hit me as a child. I got fired (I walked out) from a babysitting job once because I tried to discipline the child. His mom was home while I watched her children, she worked from home. He kept sticking his tongue out at me and I told him if he kept it up I was turning off the tv. His mom looks at me and goes "He is only five.", and asked me if I was having a bad day! I don't care if the kid was five, my two year old niece wouldn't even do that to me!

Later I would see her at stores, and her son would be hiding under the clothing racks and swinging from them!

 

[GoldenChinchillas]

I agree with Megan. Kids these days talk back to their parents and sometimes hit/kick them and don't care who is watching them do it, but if it was the other way around you know social services gets involved. I think its partly they have become to lazy and let the kids get away with it so they can have their own time and let them do whatever or they dont want to deal with having their child taken away from a person thinking they are beating their children. I remember being spanked a few times and put in time out and yes I hated it but I have more respect for them and other people because I never got away with being a lil punk. I also think that parents don't teach their children morals anymore. Shoot, I remember my school teaching you morals too but without turning this into a huge religious debate I personally feel that once they took god out of schools it went down hill and we get this "oops my bad whats done is done ...nothing I can do about it now attidude". I think parents need to be there for their children than just a meal on the table and a ride to school/friends. What happend to the parents who would set aside everything for their kids... instead of be glued to farmville or whatever they feel is more impornant than giving attention to their children. This is their cry out for help or for attention and sadly its in wrong ways they choose to do it.

 

[DaddyslilDimwit]

I agree, parents now a days are so involved with their own lives that they are NOWHERE near involved with their kids. Parents don't seem to even WANT to be parents anymore, it's like "you live your life and I'll live mine"