Riven
Bad Chin
Yea.... he's still totally freaking out about this, and now he's just attacking me about it. Apparently this ruined our marriage... and honestly if he thinks he wants a divorce over something as dumb as this, then there are a lot of worse underlying issues he needs to deal with anyway.
His mom said "he never talked about anything, always kept it in, so I don't know the extent of anger he has".
It is all painted, because I always keep the left over paints from a room. I did leave the thing I wrote above her closet door, which is her name with something for each letter.
It's not like random pen scribblings or wall carvings, and honestly is no different than the rubbings you can buy to put on your wall.
We have enough things here to paint every room in this house, to me repainting a room is easier and cheaper than going to the store and getting a bunch of stuff, be it the tile board, bulletin boards, etc. because I have to put those things up, and that tile board is a two person job to prevent it from breaking. I have it in my chin house, I write notes on it all the time. And we have a half gallon of both colors in her room....
So yea, I'll see if he settles down anymore today and realizes he's over reacting. Agree or disagree, we painted over it, to make him happy. She's not going to do it, to make him happy. But he can't get past that and now is to the point he's attacking me in other areas, his last message to me yesterday said something to the effect of I just think I'm really great but I'm not, I annoy him, and he's tired of me. "I thought things were going good then you had to go and pull this number". Which just goes to show he rarely actually listens to me, because if he did he'd know what I really thought of myself. I am my toughest critic. Anyway... yea, I think there is some underlying issues coming out, and I don't know if I should just let it go and let him get over it on his own, or ask him what the real deal is. I think if I do ask, he won't really have any answer anyway. I do agree that perhaps it made him live back to part of his childhood. He is very adamant about our kids not growing up like he did.
Oh, and to make it worse in my mind is Hailey is not his child. He is the only real dad she's ever known though. We got together when she was 2, she only sees her dad maybe a couple times a year. In fact he apparently moved to a town like 1 1/2hrs away from where he was living and hasn't told us... She has never, ever once pulled the "you're not my dad" card, she loves him just like a child would love their "real" father, and I say that carefully because "real" fathers aren't always good, there, or anything like that. I do not believe that her being his step daughter has anything to do with the whole blowing up thing.
His mom said "he never talked about anything, always kept it in, so I don't know the extent of anger he has".
It is all painted, because I always keep the left over paints from a room. I did leave the thing I wrote above her closet door, which is her name with something for each letter.
It's not like random pen scribblings or wall carvings, and honestly is no different than the rubbings you can buy to put on your wall.
We have enough things here to paint every room in this house, to me repainting a room is easier and cheaper than going to the store and getting a bunch of stuff, be it the tile board, bulletin boards, etc. because I have to put those things up, and that tile board is a two person job to prevent it from breaking. I have it in my chin house, I write notes on it all the time. And we have a half gallon of both colors in her room....
So yea, I'll see if he settles down anymore today and realizes he's over reacting. Agree or disagree, we painted over it, to make him happy. She's not going to do it, to make him happy. But he can't get past that and now is to the point he's attacking me in other areas, his last message to me yesterday said something to the effect of I just think I'm really great but I'm not, I annoy him, and he's tired of me. "I thought things were going good then you had to go and pull this number". Which just goes to show he rarely actually listens to me, because if he did he'd know what I really thought of myself. I am my toughest critic. Anyway... yea, I think there is some underlying issues coming out, and I don't know if I should just let it go and let him get over it on his own, or ask him what the real deal is. I think if I do ask, he won't really have any answer anyway. I do agree that perhaps it made him live back to part of his childhood. He is very adamant about our kids not growing up like he did.
Oh, and to make it worse in my mind is Hailey is not his child. He is the only real dad she's ever known though. We got together when she was 2, she only sees her dad maybe a couple times a year. In fact he apparently moved to a town like 1 1/2hrs away from where he was living and hasn't told us... She has never, ever once pulled the "you're not my dad" card, she loves him just like a child would love their "real" father, and I say that carefully because "real" fathers aren't always good, there, or anything like that. I do not believe that her being his step daughter has anything to do with the whole blowing up thing.
